How to remove a Siri-created relationship

If you have used Siri to add a relationship on your iPhone 4S( you may be wondering how to go about removing it. Maybe you had someone labeled as a girlfriend or boyfriend and need to remove that relationship. While Siri can't remove relationships (yet) itself, we can walk you through how to do it manually.

When iOS adds relationships it simply remembers them via your own contact card. So we'll need to edit that.

  1. First go into your Address Book and find your own contact card.
  2. You'll want to tap Edit in the top right corner.
  3. Now scroll down a little ways and you'll see a relationships section.
  4. Simply delete whatever relationships you don't want anymore.
  5. Scroll back up and click Done.

iOS should no longer remember those relationships. You can always use Siri or manually add relationships again anytime you want.

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Allyson Kazmucha

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How to remove a Siri-created relationship


It's also a good idea to check the relationships you think you have. Many of the new ones (mother, father, brother, sister, etc.) don't exist in non-Apple contacts. Siri stuck mine in fields for Manager, Assistant, etc.

Also, be careful with sharing your contact info with others. If you send out your contact with all those family relationships stored in it, the other person now knows all your family members. I wish Siri would store the relationships on the server instead of in the contact card. I keep separate identities (contacts) for myself. One personal and one for business.

I actually use Google set up as Exchange for my contacts so ran into the issue of only having 3 relationship types, however my iCloud account set up a contact card for me as well. I told Siri to associate me with the iCloud contact record, that is the record that gets all the relationships added to it, but the contact card I have for myself in Google stays the way it's always been.

Don't have a 4S yet but can you set up several people as a relationship to send out a group message? Make a "team" relationship to send texts to 4 or 5 people from work at the same time.

This was so helpful! My cousins were messing about with my phone and I didn't know how to go about undoing the relationship. Thanks to this page, I do now!